Strap yourselves in for a juicy one
Always had this instinct that work relationships should be approached with caution…you spend ages coming up with an excuse to get the office honey alone to ask her out for a drink outside of work whilst at the same time wondering what to say when she shoots you down and exposing the tragic set of affairs to everyone else in the office.
So the plan was to get work bae on her own away from everyone by asking her for a few minutes to talk her through the fire evacuation procedure (I work for a company who manage a building and lease office space)
This I thought was an awesome plan until work announced everyone needed to move out as the building had been sold by the building owner for redevelopment……Suddenly the need for going through the fire procedure was flawed as we were now set to leave in 5 weeks.
Since then I’ve been developing a relationship with work bae that goes further then just ‘how has your morning been’ trying to make traction before we are both taken from each-other (modern day Romeo and Juliet story)
As I write this I have two more days before the company she works for leaves and the opportunity walks out the door with her.
That said there is a plan b – A couple of her colleagues have accepted my friend request on Facebook – The formation of friendship had been easier with these individuals as we share the same ‘office banter’
Like Joanne and that cous cous from Marks & Spencer…..hilarious
Anyway I digress, I’ve added work bae’s colleagues as a back up plan in case I need to add her on Facebook at a later date (can claim that she came up as someone you may know feature instead of admitting I actually went searching for her.
Although some girls may be flattered that you went looking for them.
How long is to long to hold out for going out for a drink with someone, genuine question please let me know via twitter @jakedomb
I’ve spent the last couple of months talking to a girl and asking her out for a drink growing slightly frustrated as the weeks pass by and still no after work socializing on the cards.
To point out she’s a teacher so Monday – Friday was always going to be a no go for her whilst my shift work gives me no weekend to plan something…..a modern day Romeo & Juliet, love being estinquished before it even gets started by the s**t demands of work.
I would of given up and accepted her dating profile was a fake had it not been for a mutual friend we both shared, another girl I used to work with in broadcasting…back in the days The Watford Observer called me the most wreckless/dangerous man in Hertfordshire radio.
Anyway the long overdue social happened and being honest it wasn’t the best date, no drinks were thrown over but I felt like I was interrogating the poor girl (It’s easy to slip into this when you can’t think of anything else to say)
* What’s been your favorite holiday ?
* What’s your favorite food ?
* Are those rumors about the staff room I heard as a kid true ?
We shared a little of our mutual love for Dubai in a cool bar in Covent Garden but felt things got a little awkward when we went for a wonder round the plaza and I linked arms with her…..After a couple minutes I realized her arm was awkwardly dangeling down by her side so bailed.
Although saying this we ended up walking from Covent Garden to Oxford Circ so mabye I was overthinking things, after all she could of just jumped on the train and headed home instead.
Been out of the game for too long!
What is it with the morons who like you enough to swipe right but as soon as they see it’s a mutual attraction go completely silent!
As a guy it is your duty to instigate the convo, looking at her profile and picking something specific about her to start the conversation with you’d think would aid you in getting a reply.
So I’m confused to why I’ve currently got 50 matches where I’ve started a conversation and have had no reply…..I know people are busy and may not always read messages but after you’ve sent three over a period of time you assume their not interested in you (I mean I’m not the best looking guy but if I’m really a munter why haven’t these girls unmatched from me/even swipe right in the first place)
It’s the same thing if you get your new crushes number and start talking on whatsapp (those two blue ticks are a God sent, letting you know when that hottie is blanking you)
Girls if a guy is taking time out of his day to drop you a message have the respect to reply to him, even if it is being black and white and saying your not interested
A guy who’s taken an interest in you and invested time to strike up a convo and not just demand nudes is worth a reply!